Secrets to a Great Sex Life with Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is essential for a thriving, healthy and sustainable relationship.

It might not surprise you, but lack of sexual fulfillment is the most common cause of relationship issues. It may be a worry, or a real PROBLEM. Yet, many people are afraid to ask for what they need and desire in their sex life. No wonder this leads to cheating, toxic behavior, and relationship failure.

In initial phases of a relationship, the brain releases large amounts of dopamine - which decreases by 10% each year.

Secret #1: Unless each partner learns how to be sustained by love through a balanced and FULL emotional intelligence, it is impossible to keep the “spark” alive.

It’s through sustainable love that both partners improve trust and intimacy within the relationship - which improves overall life satisfaction!!

Secret #2: Emotional intelligence makes for sustainable love AND a great sex life because it requires vulnerability, which is courageous. And courage - is SEXY.

Imagine saying what you feel and asking for what you want.. and actually getting it!

Secret #3: Your partner is not a mind reader. When you are able to express your thoughts and feelings, it adds up to real solid connection.

The most common operating system for men is: the performer

The most common operating system for women is: the good girl

Whether you like it or not, these operating systems are from deeply ingrained subconscious beliefs that keep you in less-than-ideal situations.

You may think “My partner doesn’t need to know about my fantasies” or “I don’t want to hurt their feelings”. These beliefs are rooted in your own fears and insecurities.

Secret #4: When you operating from past beliefs, you are NOT operating from an authentic position of personal integrity.

Unless you have access to your own emotional intelligence, you cannot have access to your own true wants, needs, and desires. Up until now, you may have been having inauthentic sexual experiences - it’s not your fault. We were never taught how use our emotions and feelings to guide our decision making about our own personal desires.

Secret #5: Emotional intelligence creates intimacy.

When you can create intimacy and trust, you can make those requests and help your partner to meet your needs WITH you. These skills help you to show up in ALL areas of your life with more confidence and ease. This personal integrity also equates to a sense of Life’s Purpose with your partner, so you can expect a great sex life as a result too.